I think this will offend my dad, as he takes his marriage vows very seriously from a religious perspective. (He annulled the marriage from my mother and made his current wife get two annulments before they could marry.)
Am I out of line to ask to only see him when I visit?
Daughter
Dear Daughter: Your father can’t take marriage vows all that seriously if he is on his third marriage, but regardless he is embracing the existence of this child and is helping to raise it, which is the right thing to do, especially seeing as how the child’s mother is his wife.
So you come from a messed-up family. Join the club.
You are responding to the confusion and complication by essentially trying to erase an entire person a child who has done nothing to deserve being shunned or denied by you or anyone else. The child does have a biological father and it also seems right for this man to have a hand in raising the child.
You should be truthful with your children, despite how painful or embarrassing this is for you. You can certainly ask to see your father alone, but don’t be surprised if he doesn’t agree to this condition.
Dear Amy: I am a teenager. I have a friend, “Hattie,” who is going through a rough time at home. Her brother has dropped out of college, and he is back at home, dealing drugs instead of getting a job. Hattie told me, but she is in denial.
Should I report him to the police? I am afraid that he will harm her,beats studio. A few days ago he had a terrible argument with his mom,Boston bombings- Obama hails arrest as end of ‘important chapter’_2, and it got violent. Hattie isn’t a weakling, but she is physically smaller and mentally insecure. But if I do rat him out, will my friendship with Hattie be over,cheap beats by dr dre? Will I later regret it?
Good Friend
Dear Friend: What you can offer your friend is perspective and a very supportive friendship.
I agree with you that this situation sounds volatile and frightening. You should talk with your parents or another trusted adult about the best course of action, including perhaps inviting her to stay with you. Police will not always leap into a situation based on what a third party reports but you could also try to get advice from them about what Hattie should do.
Dear Amy: “Worried Friend” asked if she should send a card to her friend who was in the hospital for an attempted suicide. Your response was right-on.
I still have the bow from the food basket that my co-workers sent when I went into treatment for alcoholism 21 years ago. My son was in a hospital for depression, and the letter that his best friend sent him was the best medicine he received at the time,beats headphones.
Grateful
Dear Grateful: Thank you so much for sharing your personal perspective.